The One Thing You Can Do Tonight to Feel Better Tomorrow

What if I told you there is something you can start tonight that will yield psychological benefits tomorrow? Would you do it? If it was a pill, would you take it? Consider these additional facts about what I am going to suggest in today’s post:   It’s free to...

How to Inoculate Yourself Against the Fear of Rejection

I recorded a podcast with Jennifer Tracy of the MILF podcast a few months back and something I said garnered a bit of inquiry from listeners. I mentioned that I had decided several years back to “inoculate myself against rejection.” In one of my many email attempts to...

The 5 Secret Ingredients That Influence All High Performers

I got you here because of the title of this essay. Plain and simple. It’s Psychology 101. If I title something in a certain way, you are going to click on the link. And lists, recipes and anything that promises a quick fix are top of the list of most viewed articles...

A Lesson in Magic: A Transformative Trip to Sanoviv

I recently spent a week in Mexico at the functional medicine institute, Sanoviv. I have known about Sanoviv for many years now, as my obsession with finding core origins of suffering and disease has deepened. Let me clarify the use of the word “institute.”  Sanoviv is...

Struggle: The Remedy is in the Wrestle

I’ve logged a lot of hours in the pain cave, both self-inflicted and at the hands of others. There is no end to the various ways I have entered the arena with the gladiator that is pain and suffering. Toe-to-toe I found myself constantly returning to this wrestle, to...

The Fine Print: Your Emotional Contract with Avoidance

There are terms and conditions of the behaviors and patterns you participate in within your own self. We accumulate these patterns over decades of acting and reacting to our world in certain fixed patterns.

Journey Home

I know that pain is our ultimate teacher; it’s our spirit guide; it’s a primal mode of conversation with our self. I know that if you keep ignoring it, it will grow louder and louder. I know this comes down to you against you.

Six Sneaky Habits That Fuel Self-Sabotage

In this blog I will list the six sneaky (and highly common) ways people engage in self-sabotage and don’t even realize it. Remember, it’s our unconscious patterns that rule the roost. Start to observe the things you don’t even recognize as unusual.

Failing to Grow: Why Rescuing Our Kids is Not Helpful

As my son has matured his relationship with avoidance has mutated, taking on a very different look and feel. Lately, his relationship with avoidance has begun to also feel like a habit; one that he relies on with greater frequency.

Defense Mechanisms: The Department of Homeland Security

Defense mechanisms are like your personal department of homeland security; they are taxed with the job of protecting your interior landscape from domestic threats of psychological terror. Defense mechanisms protect you from the intensity of your feelings. Their intentions are always in your best interest, despite the consequences of their tactics. And there are always consequences. It just how it goes. 

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