The 5 Secret Ingredients That Influence All High Performers

I got you here because of the title of this essay. Plain and simple. It’s Psychology 101. If I title something in a certain way, you are going to click on the link. And lists, recipes and anything that promises a quick fix are top of the list of most viewed articles...

A Lesson in Magic: A Transformative Trip to Sanoviv

I recently spent a week in Mexico at the functional medicine institute, Sanoviv. I have known about Sanoviv for many years now, as my obsession with finding core origins of suffering and disease has deepened. Let me clarify the use of the word “institute.”  Sanoviv is...

Struggle: The Remedy is in the Wrestle

I’ve logged a lot of hours in the pain cave, both self-inflicted and at the hands of others. There is no end to the various ways I have entered the arena with the gladiator that is pain and suffering. Toe-to-toe I found myself constantly returning to this wrestle, to...

The Fine Print: Your Emotional Contract with Avoidance

There are terms and conditions of the behaviors and patterns you participate in within your own self. We accumulate these patterns over decades of acting and reacting to our world in certain fixed patterns.

Journey Home

I know that pain is our ultimate teacher; it’s our spirit guide; it’s a primal mode of conversation with our self. I know that if you keep ignoring it, it will grow louder and louder. I know this comes down to you against you.

Six Sneaky Habits That Fuel Self-Sabotage

In this blog I will list the six sneaky (and highly common) ways people engage in self-sabotage and don’t even realize it. Remember, it’s our unconscious patterns that rule the roost. Start to observe the things you don’t even recognize as unusual.

Failing to Grow: Why Rescuing Our Kids is Not Helpful

As my son has matured his relationship with avoidance has mutated, taking on a very different look and feel. Lately, his relationship with avoidance has begun to also feel like a habit; one that he relies on with greater frequency.

Defense Mechanisms: The Department of Homeland Security

Defense mechanisms are like your personal department of homeland security; they are taxed with the job of protecting your interior landscape from domestic threats of psychological terror. Defense mechanisms protect you from the intensity of your feelings. Their intentions are always in your best interest, despite the consequences of their tactics. And there are always consequences. It just how it goes. 

Podcast Guest: The Family Brain

I had the pleasure of talking with Megan Gipson, LCSW of The Family Brain Podcast where we discussed neurobiology, brain development, birth order, positive psychology, and many other topics.

Podcast Guest: Not Another Anxiety Show

This weeks installment from The Padded Room comes in the form of a podcast appearance on Not Another Anxiety Show.  On this episode Kelli and I explore the role of fear in our psychological and emotional worlds. Additionally, we cover mindfulness, meditation, TM, therapy, and a host of other interesting and compelling topics that will help you think about your feelings through a new and different lens.

To enjoy this episode please click on the link below and look for episode #141.

Not Another Anxiety Show: Episode 141-Fear: A Master of Disguise

Sabotage: An Inside Job

I work in clandestine realms. Shadowy and furtive by nature, I orbit in the background, the underbelly of your mind.

You will not see me coming.

 

I’ve infiltrated the velvet ropes and I have free reign over your unconscious landscape. I roam pathways and corridors that even you don’t know exist.

You cannot hear me coming.

 

I am suspicious of change and progress. I detonate, undetected, as soon as I feel threatened. I live parasitically inside of you.

You will always be caught flatfooted.

 

My networks are savvy, tactical, and coordinated.

You will not smell, feel, or anticipate my presence.

 

I am relentless and I am unpredictable.

 

This is an inside job.

 

Do you know who I am?

 

I am sabotage.

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